July 31, 2024 Death of family member

1. 剛剛我媽打給我 說大伯公過世了 要我過去殯儀館幫忙

   My mom called and said my granduncle passed away. She asked me to go to the funeral home to help. I said I would go, but I didn't know what to do. My mom told me, "Just come and help me first." She was very anxious. I don't have money, and my uncle is also unemployed. I need to figure things out. Although he wasn't a very close relative, as a descendant, it's good to pay respects. Later, my mom cried out of sadness and called to say I don't need to go for now.

   Q1. Why was my mom so anxious and crying?

2. A1. My mom and my uncles were raised by my granduncle because my grandfather was very irresponsible. They feel deeply grateful to him.

   Q2. Why does your mom have no money when she is with her boyfriend?

   A2. Before my mom went to Taoyuan, her boyfriend had a job. After she arrived, she told me her boyfriend was about to get fired because working night shifts made him exhausted and he often took leaves. I found out today (2024.07.31) that he has lost his job. My mom also tried finding a job but couldn't stand working at a car light manufacturing workshop due to its stinginess, so she quit after two days.

   Q3. About my granduncle

   A3. I don't know how to feel about his passing. My granduncle used to take care of me and take me out when I was very young (around 5 years old). I don’t have many memories because I was too young. He was often ill and had many surgeries. Maybe this is a relief for him. Normally, I should feel sad, but I don’t feel sad or like crying. I don’t understand why. Is it an emotional expression disorder? I often hide my emotions and don’t want others to see my vulnerable side. Will I react the same way next time?

   I want to ask someone about this, but that person is dealing with other problems now, so it's not a good time to ask. I’ll wait for a while.

   Additionally, I always avoid facing family issues. I feel like I have disappointed them and caused them a lot of trouble. Many times, I don't want to visit relatives or participate in family events. By Chatgpt translate